HIGH HEELS or of the FOOT and of the SHOE.

Belinda has been going on at me ever since I started this BLOG about putting some of her work on it.  I haven’t deliberately been ignoring her , just had so little time what with one thing or the other, but perhaps it’s time now to give her a chance to show off her talents – so here goes with ;  

HIGH HEELS   or    of the FOOT and of the SHOE.

 

How many shoes make a fetish and what exactly does the word mean ??.  You might find the answer here, and then on the other hand ( or foot ) you might not !!.  But I’m sure you will find it interesting.  

The word fetish originally came from the Guinea Coast of Africa where it was used to describe especially designated objects used in primitive tribal worship often with some kind of magical or sexual connection.  But in modern times fetish ( or fetishism ) is used more generally to describe objects or parts of the body which command intense sexual interest ,often to the degree of obsession.

 

Abnormally stimulating or what ??  

Women’s shoes – especially very high heeled shoes - are considered by some to be a modern fetish object and I suppose I have to agree with that. Although my dictionary defines the word fetish as an object worshipped as magical by primitive peoples it also says that it is something evoking irrational devotion or respect.  Now that sounds a bit more like it to me .  

 And yet another interpretation is for something abnormally stimulating or attracting sexual desire.  Hmm , pretty near the mark again , but I wonder what is considered abnormal ?? Not me I hope. 

Well, I  know I’m not primitive ( well maybe just a little bit – on certain occasions ) and I don’t think my shoes are magical but I do have an enormous collection of high heeled shoes and I just love wearing them.   I suppose that some people may say that  I’m mad , others that I really do have some kind of fetish  - and perhaps I have , but I just find this kind of footwear so irresistible.

 

As I stood looking into a shop window on one of my trips to London’s Oxford Street  some years ago , a man came up behind me and said “ I do like your shoes “.  I turned round and in a surprised tone of voice replied  “ Oh , thank you .  I just love high heels “ . He continued , “ you don’t see many ladies wearing them that high these days “ and then he went on his way.  

At the time I was wearing a pair of fairly unusual blue mosiacs with about a four and a half inch heel – not that high I must say , but rather nice nevertheless.    Although I have worn high heels ever since my young teenage days , that was the first time this kind of thing had happened to me , but it was not the last.  

My very own collection

 

I have to admit that I really do love shoes and in fact I am fascinated even by just looking at them in  shop windows.  If there is ever a really big shoe sale on then it could prove fatal for me.   My collection of boots , shoes and sandals in various styles and colours have long overflowed my wardrobes and until recently I kept lots of them stored in their boxes in the spare room.  Although most of the boxes are quite attractive with little pictures of the contents on the outside , I thought that maybe my guests wouldn’t really appreciate lying in bed looking at them from the corner of their eyes so I got Mark to make me a dressing room fitting especially for them. 

Shoes are of course a part of every woman’s wardrobe and are a necessity  for day to day use, but I think that the kind we wear depicts our mood and overall well being.    For instance when working around the house I always wear low comfortable shoes.  This is just a matter of common sense as they are much kinder to the feet when working in conditions where a lot of standing is involved.

 

On the other hand , when I wear shall we say a pair of lovely bright pink strappy high heeled sandals I feel kind of European inside and out.  I feel like having fun  , feel so alive and can just imagine parading in the hot sunshine through a bustling market square with the sound of the traders calling out their wares to sell.  Hold on – I’m getting a bit carried away now !!!. 

It’s like stepping into another world

 

But wearing real stilettos is the best and for me like stepping into another  world.  Black patent stiletto heels look sexy and sophisticated , while red crocodiles in the same style are sexy and seductive.  I have an unusual pair of black sandals with a steel stiletto heel which are naughty and suggestive , while some of my animal designs are slinky and wild. Stiletto heels make my legs look good and make me feel sexy and teamed up with the appropriate clothes – wow – it’s just too much.

 

High heels of course are also lovely to wear with nothing else at all , just to be totally naked in them.  Walk about like this at home and you will be irresistible  and I can guarantee that your husband or lover would soon pounce on you.  To bring out the dominatrix in you a pair of high leg , high heeled black boots certainly looks the part , and yes I do have such a pair - in black simulated crocodile. 

 

Fashions and styles may change and women’s shoes are always an object of desire, but there are also certain people who have what can be called a real shoe fetish which I think is something in a completely different category to my own desires.    For instance there are men ( and women ) who enjoy being stood on  by a person wearing stiletto heels , others love to lick the shoe or the heel of the wearer and worship then in some way. 

Red or Black are the favourites 

There are specialist catalogues which cater specifically for these shoe fetishists which feature enormously high heels some adorned with zips and buckles, others just plain but even higher.  Black or red seem to be the most popular colours, although there is an enormous range now available. 

If you can’t wear these very high styles in your daily lifestyle ladies , then it’s perfectly in order to invest in a pair or two for photography. Sauntering about at home in them is a thrilling experience and a little bit of sauciness and imagination can really spice up your sex life.  That’s what life is all about at the end of the day – isn’t it ?.

 

 

I know  a photographer who has a studio in the south of France that does nothing else except take pictures of women’s feet clad in the most beautiful shoes , using unusual props and compromising positions to make them more interesting.    There are also clubs for people who share this shoe fetish where they can air their views and act out their fantasies.  I think that this is a good idea,  although some participants do take it rather seriously and it’s not  just a game to them.

Shoes also play an important role in the book and film world.  I remember seeing a Spanish film some years ago now called Red High Heels.  I can’t remember all that much about it except for the main theme than ran right through the film where an attractive woman wearing ( yes , you’ve guessed )  red high heels,  went clacking along the pavement to work, passing over the grill of an underground basement whose occupant observed her every day.   I expect there was more on his mind than just her shoes !! 

It’s a great turn on !

 

I suppose that some people may think that I’m talking a load of twaddle or maybe they can’t understand what it’s all about , but I wouldn’t mind betting that the majority of men think differently and know exactly what I’m saying. 

Ask almost any man and if they are honest they will say that a nice looking stiletto heeled shoe makes a woman look more sexy , is a great turn on and arouses the natural instinct in them.   As the dictionary says –  a fetish object is something abnormally stimulating or attracting sexual desire – and I would have to agree with that 100%. 

Sex for shoes

 

The young lady in a “ Sex for Shoes “ national newspaper feature recently would know exactly what I am talking about.  She sleeps with men for shoes and apparently got the idea while on holiday in Belgium of all places.  She was window shopping one day gazing at a shop full of beautiful shoes when some rich foreign hunk came up behind her and told her that he would buy her the sexy red sling backs she was drooling over if she would have sex with him.    So she did , saying that the sex was nice but she was much more excited afterwards when returning to the shop to buy the shoes.  She could hardly wait and actually said that she was “gagging “ for them.

 

After this first encounter she became totally hooked on the idea of taking a man to bed for sex in return for a good pair of stilettos and she now apparently has thirty pairs that she has acquired this way.  Well as much as I desire lovely shoes I would never go to this extreme and nor I imagine would most women, but there are of course extremists in every walk of life.   I don’t actually condemn this girl for what she is doing , but I think she is playing a very risky game just to satisfy her irresistible urge to have more and more shoes. 

It’s nice to have fun like I do, but far better to know where to draw the line and that I think is the real difference between sensible stimulation and big trouble. 

Stockings & tights

 

Many fetish objects that are used for sexual stimulation are often linked to something else, which may also be classed as a fetish object in it’s own right as well.   Stockings and tights, women’s underwear including knickers,  suspender belts and a range of corsetry - and even images of the foot itself - can form a part of the fetish that might have started off with only a more than normal interest in shoes.

 

Although the items themselves are usually worn by females, men who have this kind of fetish attraction will also collect them ( or images of them ) and some will even go as far as wearing them, even though they are completely heterosexual in every other way.  

 

Often the materials that are used in making the objects - think plastic , rubber , PVC etc - can also form a part of the fetish and some kinds of  submissive or dominant behavior will incorporate the use of any or all of the items I have written about here.     What might initially have begun with just a small collection of shoes could easily swell to the degree where on top of  the overall cost it becomes difficult to find somewhere to keep it all and as well as items of clothing and footwear can include  books and magazines , catalogues, photographs , personal anecdotes and stories and even membership of specialist clubs.

 

The foot has a deep symbolic power and once shoes were believed to carry the spirits of previous owners. Almost every culture has used the foot as a unit of measurement and many great figures through the ages, including Buddha and Mohammad have left their footprints as a reminder of their earthly presence.

 

The troubadours of 18^th century Italy wore long phallic shaped shoes which the church tried to ban (without success ), but it was the tiny Catherine de Medici who first adopted the high heel from which our present day stiletto comes. She obviously wanted to make herself appear a little taller and hopefully more sexy.  It worked then for her and it has worked ever since,  over the last couple of hundred years or so for millions of other women ( and men of course).

 

Even though my primary interest is in shoes I sometimes find something else that attracts me enough to want to add it to my collection.  A picture maybe , some special piece of underwear perhaps or even a while ago a pair of huge black feather fans and a matching mask that I saw in a shop quite by accident as I was buying a clip for my hair.   

I like the feeling I get when I buy whatever it is that takes my fancy at the time and it certainly adds to the many pleasures of (our) lifestyle, but I do make sure that we never let any single theme take over and become an obsession for us. 

 

I wrote the first draft of this feature just over three years ago and shortly after reading it Mark decided to keep a look out for suitable illustrations or pictures to go with it.  Within 15 months he had accumulated a huge collection of cuttings , enough to fill more than 40 pages of a 25cm x 38cm album.   He carried on collecting them, now has 23 albums and says             “ that’s all for the moment”.

 

Many of them came from The Sunday Times magazines as well as one of two other specialist Arts listings and it was truly amazing to see just how much of this obviously fetish style illustration is now included in everyday mainstream media and not only by way of direct advertising. I was surprised to see it being used by international names in design and retailing not just in fashion as might be expected, but even for mundane products like cleaning materials and electrical goods.  

Our own photographic collection taken over the last fifteen years or so also includes some suitable examples of the genre – so he included about 40 of them (mostly of me) in the first album.  

Even if you haven’t been able to make up your mind on the question of fetishism it will hopefully have been an interesting way to spend an hour so. 

 

B.M.  c. 2012.

ABOUT SEX ON THE BEACH and other short stories.

Night after night on TV, on almost every one of the vast multitude of channels that are now available in most of the world , viewers can see one or more programmes whose central theme features murder or criminal mayhem of one kind or another,  from simple robbery ( if there is any such thing )  to sadistic violent torture, physical and verbal abuse - or worse..   Some are fictional – some kind of film or TV drama for example - but many feature real life events ( so called “reality TV” ) or a documentary version of an actual crime with all the sickening particulars exposed in gory detail. 

  

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For the life of me I really cannot understand why so many people want to watch this kind of stuff for their evening ( or even daytime ) entertainment.   After all , there is surely nothing pleasant about having your wife or daughter  raped – your house burgled – your husband mugged or even worse attacked by some drug crazed or drunken lout – so why watch this kind of thing replayed in one form or another for your nightly amusement ?. 

What is even worse is the fact that these type of programmes invariably link sex with violence –and a great deal of popular modern literature is just as bad.    Many of the main characters are vicious evil  people living sad degrading lives within broken homes and multiple marriages ,where even children as well as adults are also frequently mentally and physically abused.

 

With characters often suffering from drug addiction and/or alcohol abuse and unable to distinguish sadistic behaviour from normality, these books describe sexual acts in the most derogatory way, hardly ever showing them as acts of pleasure.   Pondering to the lowest possible taste and including  the crudest representation of sex imaginable that truly degrade human nature, they nevertheless often reach number one in the listings and go on to sell in their millions. 

Violence, rape and sexual abuse of any kind  is inherently bad – but sex itself is intrinsically good and meant to be enjoyed.  It keeps the human species going and between consensual adults is the most wondrous joyous and pleasurable thing imaginable.  Real, loving sex should be actively encouraged - if it were the whole world would be a much better place for it.

 

Until very recently the majority of our published work has been primarily about the naturist lifestyle and while we have never particularly avoided the subject of sex over the years , neither up until now have we made a big thing of it.

Most naturists have a liberal attitude towards personal freedom, together with a general lack of concern or apprehension about anything to do with sex or nakedness.  A practising naturist for most of my adult life , the great majority of the inspiration and motivation for our  erotic writing comes about directly as a result of this unique kind of  lifestyle.

                              A naturist beach in the south of France

Sex on the Beach is all about SEX.  Sex . sex and even more sex – the kind of sex where everyone is enjoying the moment , the constant stimulation and anticipation -  but NO violence of any kind.  It is directed specifically at sensible adults of discriminating taste and  will hopefully provide a more refined representation of modern day sexuality than the current proliferation of mindless pornography and violence that is presently on offer.

PLEASE NOTE; Although the events described in Sex on the Beach are true accounts , the people in them are not necessarily naturists nor have the actions in them taken place on any beach or other localities that have been specifically dedicated for naturist use.

 

WONDERFUL BEACHES IN THE SOUTH OF FRANCE

ALL WASHED UP at St Pierre. 

The A9 autoroute in South Western France sweeps in a wide arc following the Mediterranean coastline from the Spanish border in the west to Montpelier in the east, and nowhere is it much more than 15 km from the sea. 

 

 This part of the region known as the Languedoc, is located on a huge bay called the Golfe du Lion with an almost never ending stretch of superb soft sandy beaches that are popular with holidaymakers of all kinds. It’s especially attractive to naturists, as all along this coast there are many officially recognised naturist beaches and dedicated naturist holiday and leisure centres.  Easily accessible on foot and also most of them by vehicle there is no scrabbling down over dangerous rocks or walking  miles through forest and field to get to any of these beaches and even on ordinary textile ones there is always some part where we can sunbathe au natural without any problems. 

 

Some are just tiny places, but others have plenty of facilities, like the Cap d’Agde naturist village, set in 200 acres and known internationally as “The Naked City”.  By contrast the vast stretch of open sands which extends for 20 kilometres from Marseillan plage to Sete is just beach with the occasional ice cream seller by the roadside, where you can park anywhere along the way to enjoy a quiet swim in the warm Mediterranean and lay out in the sun to dry off. 

 

With so much choice its difficult to say which is the best place for a day out , but our favourite one of all must be the naturist beach of St Pierre.  Although it’s probably the furthest away from the autoroute and you have to drive across a small mountain range called le Clape to get there,  it’s still only about 25K and in any case the road is good and there are spectacular views en route right over to the sea in the distance. 

 

The naturist  beach at St Pierre lies just in front of what in wintertime is a large shallow inland lake.   All along this unique coastline, separating the sea from the land are a number of these inland lakes called Etangs.  Some are small and shallow, others are huge and up to three or four metres deep, but they all serve the same purpose. 

 

They are an essential part of a vast ecosystem which formed itself naturally millions of years ago, in which filtered sea water turns into fresh water and has been carefully maintained and looked after by the local inhabitants  for many thousands of years.

 Although some of these lakes are quite small, others are big enough to support a proper port and other commercial interests, like the cultivation of shellfish, inland fishing and water based leisure facilities. Irrespective of size, they are all an important part of a natural biological system and are a haven for rare plant and bird life, small amphibians and other freshwater and sea creatures. 

 

Some of these lakes remain full all year round, but others like the one at St Pierre, holds water only during the winter and in summertime reverts back to hard flat sand which vehicles can safely drive over .

 

Two major rivers, the Aude and the Herault flow into the sea here ,with only about 40 kilometres between them and after an exceptionally wet winter one or another of them ( or sometimes both) will flood, sending a massive amount of river debris including huge logs and sometimes even whole trees out into the ocean. Eventually most of it is washed up by the tide on some beach or another then mostly washed back out again with the next one, but not always.

 

 At St Pierre the beach is so deep that a really high tide will wash big chunks of tree trunk high up on the sands, too far to be taken back by any ordinary tide where they may remain for many years to be bleached and twisted by the wind and sun into strange shapes and colours like mysterious creatures from another world. At the back of this long deep beach are soft sand dunes covered in wild grass and behind them a small stream runs from the main river some distanceaway.  Apart from the odd few naturist visitors it remains pretty much undisturbed , rather like a kind of nature reserve with a sweet aroma of flowers and herbs mixing in with the fresh sea air.  Pretty butterflies flit from flower to flower, the insects buzz in unison and gulls and terns screech out loud as they dive into the water to catch the small fish swimming in the stream.

 

This wild beach is a really wonderful place, providing  a very natural environment that is perfect for naturism. The incredible animalistic like debris would make ideal props for a science fiction film perhaps, or in our case for the unusual photo shoot which I have used to illustrate this article. 

 

 

m.g.  (c)